Many believers lack assurance.  Since we live in a performance oriented society, we often transfer this expectation from the world into our religious expectations.  The problem with this expectation is that "our salvation is not based upon our own performance, but on our relationship to Jesus Christ." (Billy Graham)

We are being saved from the power of sin by faith!

"We need to sort out our hurts and learn the difference between those that call for the miracle of forgiveness and those that can be borne with a sense of humor. If we lump all our hurts together and prescribe forgiveness for all of them, we turn the art of forgiving into something cheap and commonplace. Like a good wine, forgiving must be preserved for the right occasion." Lewis B. Smedes, Forgive and Forget.